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it seems to me communication is paramount - if someone doesnt eat pork or meat it is best to say so before hand... nothing wrong with dietary or other preferences - but make sure all is understood
I would disagree with you there, Karen. Vegetarianism is now mainstream enough among younger people and especially on hospitality exchange networks, that I think it would be more reasonable to expect the host to ask “Do you eat meat?” before preparing a meal.
No. My door is open to cycling guests. They are under no obligation to stay at my home. (It is not a hotel.)
Thomas, when I say "the host can be reasonably expected to ask", I am only making a recommendation for my fellow hosts as to actions they can take to make the experience more pleasant. You can choose not to ask your guests if that is what you like, but then you can hardly complain when they turn out to have dietary restrictions. Why leave a space for such frustration to arise? By this point they have already come to your home (and, since we’re talking about breakfast here, they have already stayed the night), so too late to rant about how they don’t have to come and stay with you.
Also, your belief that dietary restrictions are only valid on the basis of health is odd indeed. I eat meat myself, but we have to accept that many cyclists out there have valid moral objections to what they want to eat, and their preferring to not eat meat does not mean that they aren’t open to all kinds of other great authentic local experiences as they travel.
Moral objections? Therefore, I am immoral by eating what my host provides? Not quite as "good" as they are?
In many cultures, refusing a meal provided by the host is beyond rude. I respect logic. I do not respect intentional ignorance.
"Moral objections? Therefore, I am immoral by eating what my host provides? Not quite as "good" as they are?"
Someone being militantly vegetarian would be irksome and would draw some fair criticism on this network. But the vast majority of vegetarian travelers have a live and let live approach: they don’t want to eat meat, but they aren’t going to condemn you for doing so.
"In many cultures, refusing a meal provided by the host is beyond rude."
I get that ordinary people in some parts of the world might not understand vegetarianism (or kosher or halal needs) in a traveler. But we are not those “many cultures”. We are a small group of people on a platform for mutual benefit to bicycle tourers, and we ought to be aware of the common practices of our fellow cyclists. As I said, refusing to eat meat – and not compromising for the sake of politeness or whatever – is, while a minority thing, still very mainstream on this and other such travel platforms and it has been for long years now. If you set out on another long tour and used WS, especially in Europe, then you would encounter it among the hosts you stay with just as much as the guests who come to your home.
As long as they restrict travel to the USA and some countries in Europe, such 'personal' preferences will be accepted.
All countries in Europe. There is not a single country where vegetarianism hasn't become a prominent enough fad among some younger people to not be understood. Yes, hosts may fail to ask first and therefore miscommunication can happen, but a host today can hardly claim that the guest’s lifestyle choice is shocking and unusual. In Peru, Argentina and Chile I would imagine that most WS members are pretty understanding of some guests not wanting to eat meat, especially considering that the cycle-touring community there counts a large number of "alternative" people. Elsewhere in the world, the meal may not have meat in it at all (e.g. much of Africa), or there are local traditions of vegetarianism like in India, so locals understand the practice.
I suspect (and in fact have heard reported from my fellow travelers) that the only place in the world where avoiding meat would be extremely challenging is Kyrgyzstan or Mongolia where the meal may well consist of solely meat – not a vegetable in sight – and hosts, fueled by alcohol, might be more likely to express their disappointment aggressively. Otherwise, communities for people who want to travel nomadically and cheaply all over the world (bicycle tourers, hitchhikers, vehicle overlanders) tend to count a lot of vegetarian members and they seem to do just fine. As WS is a network to help out our fellow cyclists, then I think it would be good for us here to be understanding and not give our fellow cyclists a hard time.
It seems we live in different worlds. When I was on the road, I was happy to find a friendly host and a hot meal. For me, an important part of cycling was the adventure of meeting new people, in new places, with all the differences included. It was 100% unpredictable. Certainly, I understand medical reasons for dietary restrictions. However, those are not the problem and would restrict travel anywhere.
All good suggestions regarding hosting and guest guidelines. I don't know if this is a problem only we have encountered, but twice this summer (2014), we have learned of two groups who have requested housing and at the last minute, the hosts have canceled. If we request 2 or 3 days notice to host, it should also be a courtesy to give 2 or 3 days notice if a host finds it unable to accommodate guests. This would simplify last minute panic to make other arrangements.
You are being unrealistic. If a host cancels at the last minute, its because they have to or because they are not in a fit state to welcome guests. As you were going to get something for nothing, then you should just be prepared to deal with it. Its like going to the shop to buy milk and finding there's none left on the shelf. Its just life. You have to deal with it and as a touring cyclist, you need to prepared for such eventualities. In your case, either you fork out for a paid accomodation, or you find a camping spot or a host who doesn't mind haveing no notice. But if a host says they want notice, don't ignore it and send your request anyway because you will just annoy them.
The host doesn't owe you anything. That said, i am pretty sure that most hosts do whatever they can to help cyclists otherwise they wouldn't be offering to host in the first place. Hosts have a right to set terms. If you are not happy with it, you can find another type of accommodation.
As i said, you just need to be realistic.
I couldn't have said it better.
Never been a guest, but had some, but I try to host as I would like to be treated.
You who come are my guests, and all my guests are welcomed with open arms to be part of our family for the days you stay, and several of our guests end up staying a day extra!
As a host, what I first look at is your profile, if it looks good, with a picture, I'll be much more inclined to accept a request from you.
I expect you to ask about anything you are unsure about, sine my profile might not give you all answers, better to ask up front then be unsure later.
I don't expect people to be the same, so I generally don't expect anything, except company and good behavior, I'm usually pretty good with a simple don't be a A-hole and we'll get along fine :)
Actually the only thing I expect from guests is a honest feedback, since all I ask for offering you to be part of my family is that I one day can use my built up karma if I/we ever decide to go on my own adventure ;-)
As a host that has many guests, when somebody requests they want to stay we always send a reply and ask if they have any food preferences, (nice way to find out if they are vegetarians/vegans) because I know they are going to be hungry, tired, and would like a "home-cooked" meal.
We have a good talk, give them a tour and offer them the run of the house. If they want to spend time by themselves more power to them.
What upsets me is when we get a request and then if something comes up they don't bother to contact us. I truly understand that sometimes things change, but with free WiFi available almost everywhere how hard would it be to just send an email?
As most hosts know we sometimes change our plans and purchase extra food for our quests.
We have met some great people throughout the time we have hosted people, so a few bad people wont ruin it for us.
Thanks for the note.
I've never encountered a bad host or a bad guest. Hopefully that'll continue until I'm done with all this. At 74, I've only a few years of touring left.
I'm impressed. My cycling days ended years ago. (75) If the Eastern Shore is in your plans, my door is always open.
Excellent article! I never thought about sending thank you post cards. This is BRILLIANT! Thank you for such a great idea.
I bought tickets. Going to Amsterdam, Copenhagen and Paris April 20 - May 4. I like clarifying my host preferences and respecting them. I am kind, courteous and respectful generous with my time, interested in knowing and doing mutually interesting things with others. I am flexible, curious and interested in active listening to people about their lives, community, experiences etc. and sharing mine. I feel happy when I can share the cost, help cook meals and do chores around the house i.e washing dishes and pots, cleaning and home repairs.
Ideally I like to get on the road by 8am and start getting ready for bed by 10pm. I like to get to know other people by biking together, sharing meals, sightseeing, sharing stories about our lives and expressing my gratitude with words and deeds.
For 10+ years I have been a biking activist in Boston as a teacher in the Boston Public Schools educating children to build a bike, bicycle safety, the environmental impact and taking local bike rides in their city. I am an advocate, actively involved in non-profit organizations and the City of Boston staff who's work to transform Boston a safer and welcoming community for cyclist.
I hope I can stay with host one night or two max.
This subtitle of Jennifer H. Milyko's contribution here above sounds good.
Although I can appreciate if hosts want to fullfill all possible and impossible wishes of a guest, I finally was fed up with all the varied desires and demands of guests.
Therefore I decided to mention my expectations and limitations in my account.
Since that time I only get requests of cyclists that fit in. Everybody now knows what I like and don't like. They know what to expect. No disappointments anymore at both sides.
Maybe less inviting to stay over and eat for free, but very clear.
Here they are:
--request at least 2 days before arrival.
--if I accept your request, send a confirmation within 12 hours. (My planning is tight.)
--if you don't, your request is cancelled. No exceptions.
--you are welcome between 5.00 - 6.00 P.M.
--have a shower, than "happy-hour" with Dutch Jenever and/or Dutch beer and weird local snacks while you tell your great cycle adventures.
--my dinner: meat or fish, combined with vegetables of the season, prepared in style of our ancestors according local Dutch food/drinking traditions
--That means: vegetarians will starve and picky eaters too! Our ancestors were poor, ate ANYTHING that was available.
--if you arrive later,CALL ME!
--Smoking is ok, outside.
--You will sleep in a bedroom at a mattress with your sleeping bag.
--next morning, we leave after the typical Dutch breakfast between 8.00 and 9.00. I have my daily work.
The price of your visit: telling your adventures and enjoy our get together.
I liked Peter's Post, as above, I notice he is a long term member, as we are here. It;s interesting he chooses a " dot point" Profile ( as I do ), which is so much easier to comprehend than the usual " Lonely Hearts" style Profiles so many Members provide.
(They may NOT be truly "Lonely Hearts" but they use the same style as a dating forum, rambling on about themselves.... )
I have to say, not all long term members are so thoughtful in their presentations, but it's always good to see Common Sense as opposed to " walk all over me" Sentimentality.
Make a formal statement and be sure to ask how to obtain a copy of the police report.
I have been unable to post negative feedback about a guest on this site until I go through a convoluted process of obtaining
A report from the freedom of information office. Meanwhile a person who behaved in an appalling manner is being hosted nearby by
An unsuspecting host.
Fully agree with all comments made in the article. You would think it is all common sense but after my experience the past few days, it clearly isn't. It would be helpful if more people were able and willing to leave feedback when the experience is not positive.
There seems to be a wee bit of curmudgeonliness sneaking in to some of these posts. I, for one, don't expect, or even particularly want, a gift from my guests. I never sensed this expectation from my hosts either. We give freely and are given to freely (hopefully).
I don't expect them to entertain me either. The reason I host is because I've been in the situation of the guest, and I know how much I enjoyed getting free accomodation at the end of a hard day.
I see some suggestions of an etiquette protocol. Given the infinitesimal proportion of "problem guests" this seems to be a solution without a problem. The suggestion featured a "no discussion of religion or politics". I'm fairly sure that adults can talk about these topics without being insensitive. The intrusion of "rules" into human interaction is infantilising and risks formalising a relationship which should be informal and relaxed.
Thank you Jennifer for this post. Reminders of the simple things goes a long, LONG way!
I have had good experiences with guests - apart from the fact that they all seem to arrive in August for some reason! The only bad experience was guests who told me they would arrive at 7 pm which is fine, except that they were over-ambitious in planning their journey and actually arrived after 10 pm. Not only that, but having told me they were happy to camp on my lawn they said on arrival that as it was dark, could I make up a bed for them in the house, which I did. However the experience left a bad taste in the mouth. If they had told me what their plans had been for that day, I would have told them they were being over-ambitious.
So I have now changed my profile to ask guests for a realistic assessment of their arrival time, and to tell me where they will be arriving from. ec
I would also like to comment on the suggestion that guests should not talk about politics. I think this is nonsense. Here in Scotland we find that visitors always want to ask us about the Independence Referendum in 2014 - and we are more than happy to talk about this. The same applies to Brexit. I am very happy to tell people how I voted, and share my views on the crazy adventure the UK is now embarking upon. Guests expect this level of discussion.
If you are within two to three weeks of your intended arrival date, communicate often with your potential host. Do not leave them hanging. If they have indicated they will be cooking, definitely remember they are spending money and time out of their pocket and life to host you. Do not disrespect them by opting out one or two days before your date of arrival. If I cancelled on you the day before, you would be angry.
Treat your host better than you would like to be treated.
My way of travel by bike means freedom to choose. I would rather be cooking myself than having to think about a host cooking or whatever..
Changing weather, lacking power or simply interesting people or landscape would be more important than meeting a hosts expectations. Afterall I'm only travelling this route once and would rather sleep in my tent somewhere than feeling obliged to pass on..
Each to their own..
Yes you are free to choose to travel, and yes, weather, unforeseen things come up. But to blow off a host who has accepted your request and not inform them in a timely manner is rude and selfish. As others pointed out hosts often buy food, spend time preparing and most importantly might have turned down other things they could have done to host you. You might be going on the route once, but leaving a string of hosts disappointed host in your wake could haunt your WS profile for years. And when you do want to put your head down at a welcoming home you may find the door does not open for you. Please keep any host you have contacted informed of your status of arrival in a timely manner. It is the decent thing to do.
Thank you Kevin.
"As others pointed out hosts often buy food, spend time preparing and most importantly might have turned down other things they could have done to host you."
And they are making a mistake. I have been active in internet-based hospitality exchange since the early millennium. Time and time again, I have seen it given as standard advice that, if you want to stay motivated about hosting and not burn out due to disappointment, you should never make any special preparations for your guest until he/she is actually at your home. Plus, if there are possibly other events you want to go to, then go to them and tell the guest that he/she has to work around your schedule.
Guests who fail to contact their host and alert them to a cancellation are certainly out of order, but these particular hosts should primarily be blaming themselves for setting themselves up for disappointment.
thank you Mr Culver sensible and non - guilt making
No big deal. If you have these needs to your guest please explain it in your profile. I would simply travel on my own.. To your Information I have no negative feelings about this travelstyle.
Maybe different cultures..
Why do you insist cooking and preparing the entire household for a traveller not ready for this sort of engagement?
My visitors are free to arrive or stay away depending on their needs and situation.
Not everyone travels with a mobile phone able to reach the host..
Please spare your demands on others free choices including assuming I'm an annoying traveller.
Actually I'm not alone with this relaxed attitude ;-)
As mentioned I wouldn't ask for hosting by people demanding this tight schedule
It is fully within your rights to never ask me to host you, just as it is in others rights to do the same.
I'm a host only, l'm also mobility disabled and my time is precious to me. It takes me and others who are in wheelchairs more time and energy to host riders.
I have been hosting for a number of years. My profile is full of information of what I ask of my guests, I have had more (95%) good guests than I have bad ones. The bad ones have all been in the last two years.
No one has to stay in/at my home. Everyone has their own free will and preferences.
I wish you the best with your cycling.
Thank you Judith Schwalb..
Hope you & Kevin will be ongoing satisfied part of the Warmshower community
Failure to notify a host when guests change plans inconveniences the host. Guests should make every effort to notify the host if they accept another host, or if their arrival date or time changes. I have had guests who selected another lodging but failed to let me know. Guests need to understand that our homes are not hotels; we need to arrange our lives to accommodate your stay. We may have declined our own activities during your planned stay.
This year we've hosted a lot more guests than usual and I have come up with a couple of things to make my life easier.
1. I always check the guest's profile before accepting. I don't accept guests if not convenient or I don't like their feedback.
2. I include anything important to me (which may vary) in the email which I return with my acceptance (i.e. please let me know your approximate ETA on the day of arrival).
3. I do not offer dinner - usually I do serve it, but not always. We have a small map for guests showing nearby stores & cafes.
4. I give my guests a clean set of sheets to make the bed after they get up the next morning so I won't have to do it.
Most of our guests have been very considerate and thankful and have also shared interesting stories. That is why we host.
I wanted something small that I could bring with me for my hosts. I bring postcards from my home town and write my contact info and a personal thank you before I leave. I also made a bunch of 'penny medallions' ( the kind you can make for 50 cents US in machines at museums and tourist places). I punched a hole in them and got some links to make them into key chains. They take almost no space in your pannier, and hosts seem to enjoy them, especially their kids.
I think the subtitle "Don't assume anything" should maybe be "Don't EXPECT anything (apart from a shower and a place for the tent)". As a I guest, I don't expect the host to change their plans or daily routine in any way to accommodate me. I don't expect them to spend any time with me, to provide any food or electricity or laundry facilities, or even invite me inside apart from to use the shower. Of course I'm happy when they do and I'll make sure I have at least some bread or cheese to contribute to a meal if invited, but the whole point is: The site is called Warmshowers and that is absolutely all a guest should be prepared to get. AND it is not an accommodation booking service. I do not expect a host to commit to hosting me until pretty much the last minute - they have their own life that might cause sudden changes. Warmshowering is a "bonus" at the end of your day, not a basis for planning your trip. If you are anyway "expecting" hosts to host you, you are expecting too much.
In short, a good guest would be one that the host, unless they specifically want otherwise, hardly even notices that they have.
Hi. Thanks for sharing good info cuz i am planning to do bicycle travel and use warm shower. I am glad to see this topic.
If you plan on biking in the most Southern part of the U.S.A. please say hello or stop for the night.
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