We are starting to feel a trend developing where the guest is EXPECTING the host to provide all the comforts of home when all we are really doing is giving a safe place to camp and a warm shower. The entitlement mentality seems to be prevalent with folks in their twenties and early thirties. In New Mexico, we offer transportation to a buffet where the hungry cyclist can fill 3-5 plates of food for a minimal cost. BUT we do not feel it appropriate that we pay for the meal. It extends to doing laundry. There is a laundromat just across the street from us and if you, as guest, need to do laundry we will lend a helping hand by supplying laundry soap, but our machines get enough use between us and the granddaughter who comes by to do her laundry at our place. We feel if you need to do laundry bad enough, the experience is something that is a burden to your finances and not ours. In short, we are concerned that the guest treats us as if we are supposed to be their bed-and-breakfast along the route. While it is enjoyable to have diverse company in the form of traveling cross-country cyclists, we ask that you respect our surroundings if you stay with us and ask if you need something. Entitlement is EXPECTING all the comforts of home when indeed, again, we offer a safe place to lay your head in the evening and a warm shower to get rid of the road dirt. We feel it is a shared responsibility and not for someone to get too comfortable and take advantage of what is being offered. To combat this trend, some on the warmshowers list are limiting hosting to older riders 35 years and older. And perhaps the most cavalier event is the guest who emails us two and three months in advance as if they were booking a room. Totally uncalled for!!
John & Donetta Demirjian
Las Cruces, New Mexico